I’m making my new year’s resolutions early. Let’s NOT do this next year.
In a mixed-gender group, when women speak for 25 per cent of the time or less, it’s seen as being “evenly balanced”. And if women talk 25 – 50 per cent of the time, they’re seen as “dominating the conversation”
If you are a member of the dominant party in a social situation and that power matters to you, then you might pee yourself in delight at how speaking just over a quarter of the time makes you top dog. If you are the suppressed party (and for women we can also add any ethic minority), then you know that daring to collectively speak for more than a quarter of the airspace will lead to a backlash of “pushy and demanding”.
On a related note, this is spot on:
As we are the half of the world that doesn’t get to say as much as men, how we look works by way of our opening paragraph in any social setting…Now think of all the ways men can dress. It’s basically “some trousers”. Ninety per cent of what men wear is “some trousers”. You’re just getting up in the morning, putting on your trousers and getting on with stuff.